Codependency

The tendency to behave in excessively caretaking or overly passive ways that negatively impact one’s relationships and their quality of life is known as codependency.  With other behavioral habits such as denial, low self esteem, excessive compliance and/or control patterns, codependency can occur in any type of relationship from families to work, friendships and also romantic.

Behaviors, thoughts and feelings that go beyond normal kinds of self-sacrifice or caretaking are used to describe a person with codependent characteristics.  It is important to understand that codependency does not refer to all caring behavior or feelings; only those that are excessive to an unhealthy degree.

Co-Dependents Anonymous offers the following patters and characteristics as a tool to aid in self-evaluation:

Denial Patterns

–       Difficulty identifying what you’re feeling

–       Minimizing, altering or denying how you truly feel

–       Unable to recognize the unavailability of those whom you’re attracted to

Compliance Patterns

–       Compromising on your values and integrity to avoid rejection or others’ anger

–       Valuing others’ opinions and feelings more than your own

–       Acceptance of sex and/or sexual attention when wanting to feel loved

Low Self-Esteem Patterns

–       Judging everything you think, say or do as never good enough

–       Not asking others to meet your needs or desires

–       Perceive myself as unlovable and not worthwhile

Control Patterns

–       Freely offering others advice and direction without being asked

–       Using sex to gain approval and acceptance

–       Becoming resentful when others do not accept your help

Avoidance Patterns

–       Avoidance of emotional, sexual or physical intimacy as a means of maintaining distance

–       Use of indirect and evasive communication to avoid conflict or confrontation

–       Believing displays of emotion are a sign of weakness

If codependency remains unresolved, it can lead to more serious problems like drug addiction, eating disorders and alcoholism.  Those struggling with codependency are more likely to attract further abuse from individuals who are aggressive, more likely to stay in stressful jobs or relationships and are less likely to seek medical attention when they need it.

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Dr. Rodriguez founded the Delray Center in 2003 and built it on a foundation of core clinical, professional, and ethical principles that are adhered to still to this day. Dr. Rodriguez founded the Delray Center in 2003 and built it on a foundation of core clinical, professional, and ethical principles that are adhered to still to this day.